It’s a common question you will hear in the early days as a new mum – do you need anything? Can I help? Try to ban yourself from saying ‘no thanks, I’m fine’ and have a list ready of things that friends or family can do to help, even during the pandemic. People really want to help, it makes us feel great if we have helped someone in need, so don’t feel guilty for a second for saying ‘actually, there is something you could help with, if you don’t mind?’

Remotely, from a distance people could:

  • Organise a rota of dinners from your nearby friends and neighbours (even using a service like Meal Train)
  • Order your thank you cards
  • Order the essentials you need to be delivered (by setting up regular deliveries of nappies and wipes, for example)
  • Sort out your online grocery shopping several weeks in advance so you only need to add additional items the day before

Of course, as soon as you can have an extra pair of hands in your childcare bubble or from another friend or relative, don’t forget to keep a list of things they can help with in person, such as:

  • Preparing food
  • Loading the washing machine
  • Loading/unloading the dishwasher
  • Running the vacuum cleaner around
  • Cleaning the bathroom
  • Watching the baby while you rest
  • Entertaining your older children

What else is on your list of things people can help you with?